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PersuasionMy mom’s been back in her assisted living apartment (after three months in a nursing home) for two months already. She’s only fallen once in that time, and now her re-injured broken arm is back to being just plain old completely broken. That’s progress, huh? The difficulty with Mom arises when she starts to forget the pain and anguish and disability involved in one of her notorious falls. The longer she goes without falling, the more she starts to believe she’s “better,” she’s “over it,” she’s “okay.” And when she thinks she’s OK, she stops using her walker. The past two times I’ve arrived unannounced, Mom was sitting or standing in a spot in her apartment at least a room away from where she left her walker. Yesterday, she was sitting on the side of her bed with her pants down around her knees. I knew that meant she’d just come out of the bathroom and couldn’t get her pants pulled up. Her walker was in the far reaches of the living room. Did she think I couldn’t do the math? “Your pants aren’t pulled up,” I said. She looked at me like I’m the World Champion In Stating The Obvious. “I didn’t know you were coming.” “How did you get to your bed?” “I walked, silly.” “Where were you coming from?” “I don’t know.” “Where is your walker?” “I don’t know.” “Why are you walking without your walker, Mom? You do NOT want to land on the floor again—” “Would you listen to those old biddies out in the hallway? They do this every morning…” “Mom, don’t change the subject. Every time you break a bone, I lose six months of my life—” I know, I know. It sounds selfish. And I guess it is. But Mom needs to realize that her decisions affect others, not the least of whom is yours truly. “Listen to them! They’re singing! Those are the drinkers.” Mom succeeded in grabbing my interest. Her topics are WAY more fascinating than mine. I stopped my lecture long enough to listen to the cheer outside her door. “It’s a little early for them to be drinking, isn’t it?” I asked. “Are you kidding? They start right after breakfast and finish at bedtime. They’re like this all day—loud, and laughing, and carrying on. My friend Ann and I won’t have anything to do with them.” “Well, they certainly sound like they’re a lively bunch, although I really doubt they’re heavy drinkers…” “Katy, no one acts like that unless they’re drinking. You know that.” “Mom, about your walker. You need to use it EVERY time you’re walking. Even in your own apartment. The doctor said—” “They do sound happy, though, don’t they?” “Yeah, Mom, they do.” I finally realized that our conversation about assistive devices was not contributing one bit to my mother’s happiness. “You know what? I think you should be friends with them. They’re having fun. Only when you go dancing and singing through the halls, take your walker, OK?” “OK. I’ll start drinking. If that’s what it takes to be happy.” You see? THIS is why I am a highly paid healthcare professional.
Posted by Katy on 01/07/06 at 09:17 AM
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